Shout it out … Softly?
A friend wrote on his Facebook Wall last evening:
– Stating my goal to anyone is the best way of ensuring it won’t happen!
A few of his other friends ‘Like’d it and wrote comments such as “”we so agree with it!” – you get the drift.
It set me thinking – is that true? And why would it be so? How can sharing one’s goals or dreams reduce the chance of success – it seemed as if the voicing of such a dear wish unleashed negative forces that would guarantee its demise.
Extending the same argument I wondered “Can we then have negative forces that will guarantee success?” …. I only need to say that “My dream is ‘Not to be the Most Influential Blogger in the world’” … and Voilà!
If only life were as easy as that.
- We are setting a challenge for ourselves.
- We are committed to work on it.
- Proves our level of confidence.
- Increases chances of receiving support from others.
Then I Googled for some help on the subject and found suppporters for both sides of the argument – some said it’s best to be tight-lipped about our goals because sharing them reduces commitment while others claimed that making it public increases our resolve!
There are a lot of the Motivational and Self-help Gurus who propounded the “Declare it” Theory and a bunch of psychologists who insisted “Say it and you kill it!”
And I thought one of the best ways of achieving ones dreams was to boldly state what it is, maybe even create a smart poster or wallpaper of that statement and remind oneself about it all the time. But I guess reminding self about the goal is different from telling the world about it.
The contrarians believe that by saying it the following happens:
- You become less committed to achieving the goal.
- The mind fantasises that just by stating you have taken a huge step.
- You talk more about it and do less than required.
I still have not made up my mind because there are some great examples of the opposite being true:
- “I have a dream”, that speech and the accompanying agitation/movement launched by Martin Luther King was symbolic of the African American community’s commitment to fight for equality. They have come a long way, haven’t they? Barrack Obama can answer that one for you.
- Most listed companies state their revenue and expansion goals routinely – they are expected to do so!
- Sportsmen often declare their dream of winning an Olympic Medal or the top honour in their sport and do it too.
I still am swayed towards stating my goals than hiding it. What do you think?